It's Not You

Why am I still single? If you re single and searching, there s no end to other people s explanations, excuses, and criticism explaining why you haven t found a partner: You re too picky. Just find a good-enough guy and you ll be fine. You re too desperate. If men think you need them, they ll run scared. You re too independent. Smart, ambitious women always have a harder time finding mates. You have low self-esteem. You can t love someone else until you ve learned to love yourself. You re too needy. You can t be happy in a relationship until you ve learned to be happy on your own. Based on one of the most popular Modern Love columns of the last decade, Sara Eckel s "It s Not You "challenges these myths, encouraging singletons to stop picking apart their personalities and to start tapping into their own wisdom about who and what is right for them. Supported by the latest psychological and sociological research, as well as interviews with people who have experienced longtime singledom, Eckel creates a strong and empowering argument to understand and accept that there s no one reason why you re single you just are."